Guiltless Miss

Here is something that befuddles me: Men.  Didn’t see that coming, did ya?  I’m going to give you two scenarios from the past two days. 

1.  I was out with a couple of guy friends and got a text from a pilot friend that said, “Hey Sexy.”   To me “Hey Sexy” is not important enough for me to drop everything and interrupt my time with real people for a text conversation.  The next morning I get a text at 8:30a saying my pilot friend and the crew were headed to a city about 35 minutes from me.  I have never met this pilot but have been working with him for 3 years.  I’d really love to meet him, but getting a text at 8:30 when I had just gone to bed at 7:00 is a bit rough.  I decided that if I knew when they would be in town I would see what I could do.  I responded with “I just got to bed, what time will you be in?”  No response until 11:30.  “Just landed.”  Well I certainly didn’t have time to shake the semi sleep out of my brain, get cleaned up, and run over to the airport.

Why does this befuddle me?  Well…why not give me all the information at once?  Instead of a “Hey Sexy” how about a “Hey Sexy, the crew and I will be in town sometime in the morning.  Let’s work it out.”  I would have instantly responded, slept that night instead of staying up till morning, and I would have met my crew at the airport.  Do I make him nervous?  Did he not fork over all the info because he was afraid of what I would say?  I don’t understand.  The only reason I bring this scenario up is because it has happened before with other guys.  The random “Hey” text comes with no further info.

Guys, if you want a conversation or a response, “Hey” isn’t going to get it unless you and I already have a repoire.  Why do you do this???

2. Back to the other guys…both of them are married.  I had talked to one of them online for a few months before finally meeting him.  His wife and kiddo stopped by for a little while and it was nice to meet her, too. The other guy I had been talking to online for a lot longer, but he was very elusive!  I kept missing him in town for different things for months!  We talk all the time, and he is my “go to” guy for advice on guys.  He knows by a text what mood I am in.  He’s great and I know I could tell him any secret I have and he wouldn’t judge me.  There are very few people like that. 

When the first guy left, I hung out with elusive guy for at least an hour afterwards.  Lots of chatting and picking on each other.  It was like I had known him forever, but there was a bit of attraction that neither of us was expecting.  Here’s where it gets hard for me.  The next day we are texting and I could tell he is over thinking things.  Sure there is an attraction, but he is married.  He loves his kids and he loves his wife.  I’m not a home wrecker.  I have more respect for a man who loves his family than most random single chicks. But I got the feeling from his texts that he was holding something back, like his gears were turning way harder than they should have been.  It seemed to me like he didn’t think he could trust himself around me.

This bothers me to no end!  I don’t want to lose his friendship.  Did I jeopardize what we had by finally meeting him in person?  I mean seriously, I am nothing special.  My personality is the same in person as it is online or in texts.  He has seen my life, he has seen pictures, I am still the same girl that he has been talking to.  I’m really hoping his brain stops and we can get back on track.  He’s such a good friend, I don’t want to not be able to see him just because of this little attraction.  Maybe what I need to do is meet his wife so that she will love me too.  Maybe that will help him.  I don’t know but I can’t lose another friend that I actually trust.  I hate being on this island alone.

So to sum it up: “Hey” will get you nowhere, and it’s ok to crush on your friends.  Let’s not make life difficult….at least those are the thoughts from the Girl Brain.